Femdom ‘Sisterhood’

Femdom Sisterhood

Mistress Evilyne took on the big task of tackling a topic that is both a puzzle and a plus point in the Femdom world – the ‘Sisterhood’ (read it here). She was also kind enough to gather My opinion on the topic.

She has published My definition of ‘Sisterhood’ in Her piece. But I also had more to say on the topic. I’ll lay that all out here before I send you to read Her thoughtful post:

I started as a dungeon Mistress, and in the waiting room with the other Mistresses is where I learnt the most. The power (and peculiarities) of the established Mistresses simultaneously warmed, awed, terrified and shook me. I am still in awe of them, but their complexity meant that an already insular me wasn’t able to get close to them comfortably. Sisterhood by proxy was instructive, but I was too young in my capabilities (interpersonal and professional) to be able to draw any warmth or support from it.

Six years later I can say that I am somewhat better equipped to deal with simultaneous respect, admiration and asking for support. This has led to me forming (few but) solid friendships with other sex workers and Mistresses. They make up the predominant bulk of my (few) friends. I do not contact them often, I am quite the solitary animal, but when we do meet it is a very comforting experience. Also, knowing that they are there and that they are sharing a somewhat similar experience is comforting in itself for me.

Twitter has been great for feeling this comfort. I joined late last year and seeing the multiple narratives daily (including yours, thanks!) has extended on a feeling of a (somewhat) ‘shared story’.

My feeling of Sisterhood by proxy has shifted to one via social media – but that has provided me an inner smile and confidence that was hard to feel on my own – in those years when I didn’t socialise with sex workers or Mistresses (online or otherwise).

I am grateful for the Sisterhood (proxy, virtual, occasionally real time). But I also naturally practice quite a bit of interpersonal distance – which I imagine shields me from the potential conflicts (that I have also witnessed unfolding on social media oops).

I believe that it is powerful to understand that we share an experience as conscious beings. This breeds compassion – and I don’t limit it to the ‘Sisterhood’. However it deeply influences my thoughts on what the ‘Sisterhood’ is, or could represent.

I see the FemDom ‘Sisterhood’ as an extension on my general belief. That it is a space where we share the interest/lifestyle of FemDom – and the benefits and challenges that it can bring. That it is an opportunity to support and evolve likeminded individuals as a collective system. This is an ideal of course, but it’s my turn at a dreaming up a definition right? 


I highly recommend that you read Mistress Evilyne’s piece (and entire blog really) for an insight into what goes on inside Femdom heads when we’re not busy with you or our other secret Femdom business… It also features the wise words of the fabulous Madame Caramel and The Only Theodora